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Dilli dilwalonka saher hai….one year and still surviving!


Exactly a year ago on this date, I boarded train from my dear city Kolkata and came to Delhi. I was gawky, scared and nervous. I am not the first person in this world who leaves home to pursue dream, but for me it was different. Somewhere it was not my dream that chased, instead I wanted to escape from my city. I couldn’t stay any longer and bury myself in pain….so that’s how it all happened.

I left my home, my parents, my city and everything else dear to me…to a new city,  an unknown place amongst unknown people and harsher environment. To all especially my father believed his daughter is making a difference, yes she was…but in a different way. Staying away from your home, you realize a lot of things. People who actually care for you, who is real friend and who you can trust. All this and much more happened with me. I cannot complain as this is the nature and there is nothing wrong in natural occurring. People will change, time will fly and you grow wise…wiser and at last you feel you’re your only friend.

I survived. I survived this one long roller coaster turmoil eye-opening truth realizing year. And I am happy about it. I have gained lot of strength both mentally and may be a bit physically. Now I am wiser. I can let go off things easily, somewhere I can live without people around me and those once who mattered a lot before I can stay without them. Speaking of Delhi, I have gained few friends and for good reasons. If I don’t acknowledge them it will be a sacrilege. At times they became more close and understanding than people with whom I have put my trust.  I guess its not the place that influences people but its your perception, I can never say that the people I knew were the best or the best people are those from where I belonged, as best is always unknown and yet to arrive.

Meeting all different kinds of people was an enthralling experience and also learning things or two about your old acquaintances was amusing…I enjoyed both. I don’t know how much differences I have made, but I have tried and am trying to do my best. Now at this point of my life, I call myself as a Survivor and want to continue like this in future.

No matter where I will be, I will always owe a lot to Delhi. Delhi is like my brother- it has supported me, broke me and then again protected me and made me strong. I will love you but a bit less than Kolkata. So, here this long article you’re reading, I wrote to showcase my love for my Bro Delhi and celebrating a year here as a Survivor. I think I need one year badge like the ones given to sober people, for me as a Survivor. 😛


Newbie in New Delhi

Aankhi finally decided to leave behind her past and come to New-Delhi to give a fresh start. It was hard; still she managed to convince her parents. She knew one job could change her life and that’s why she grabbed whatever came to her. Aankhi knew it won’t be easy to leave everything behind and go to a new place. Still she was determined. She had enough, her sacrifices, love, care and all that she did gone in vain. Her parents thought her she is guilty, her love disowned and disgraced her, even S blamed and insulted her.

She has no reason to stay in Kolkata among people who doesn’t bother about her. Finally after lots of revelry she decided to go New-Delhi. She knew, she is taking a risk but it’s now or never. Everyone she loved, adored and cared left her a scar and nothing more. Now her time has come.

As planned, she started working and preparing for her new life. She left her job, gathered all that she required. And slowly the day arrived. Lot of things needed to be done. A place to live, food, commuting and most importantly adjusting to the new ambience.

It was before a week of her journey, everything is fixed and she has made up her mind and ready to move on. One night she woke up in the middle of sleep. A thought came into her mind she needs closure from her past. But what could she do?? She wasn’t keeping any terms. After much thought, she wrote a big letter to her past. She wrote her heart out, shared every detail and finally she felt relaxed. She knew that this letter of her would end up in trash-bin still she had closure from her side. With that happy thought she went to sleep again.

The next morning a miracle happened, S texted her. She read the message over and over, pinched her to believe is it him?? The one who insulted her for no reason and every time makes her feel unwanted. And what’s this, whenever she wants to grow out of him he arrives at her doorstep. Anyway, she knew herself and like before she surrendered. This time lot of things got cleared, lot of discussions and talks but still S wouldn’t say. He will play, subtly hint and tease but will not say. Aankhi now had enough so she decided she will not pay attention to his words anymore.

The day came she boarded the train with her father for a new journey, New-Delhi. After reaching Delhi she felt that the place is very own to her. She felt warmth, though she knew Delhi is very rude but still she felt something good. S, don’t know why started caring for her. It’s not that she is not enjoying but again thinking that is S playing that dirty game.

Speculations will never end. She stopped thinking about him and went on. Her room-mates are nice people. Soon she will join her job. Everything excited her a lot. Still a feeling of peace and serenity enclosed her. She was content someway. Delhi isn’t that bad, as people told. Already she made quite few friends. Her work place is great. Colleagues, bosses are exact what she thought of. Most interestingly all the way the work she wanted to do, here she can explore her ways. She is happy but happiness doesn’t last long!! S, still plays with her mind and she don’t know why she allows him. still today S expects everything from her but is not ready to give anything to her.

However, Aankhi is now more strong and reformed person, she knows any day she can say S to leave. But she likes her new life in every way and hopes that New-Delhi will treat good to this Bengali Newbie well!!


The War!!

Well, everyone has to agree that one cannot avoid being a Bengali.  They are very attractive, everything about them catches eye. Their attires, speaking style, food, reaction- actions and every its and bits. It is only in Bengal where Bengalis are divided into two groups – Ghoti and Bangal. Bangals’ are the people from Bnagladesh and Ghotis’ are the people of West-bengal. This discrimination happened right after the partition of our Bengal. Since then the big war has started amongst Ghoti-Bangal. Well. Here are some common occasions where they eventually take things personal.

  1. East-bengal vs Mohunbagan match. Football the lifeline of Bengalis,takes game very seriously. Especially when it is between East-bengal (the representative group of Bangals) and Mohunbagan (the representative group of Ghotis).
  1. Chingrimacher malaikari vs Sorshe Ilish bhanpa. The cuisines are also divided and segregated. Ghotis where very keen about eating poshto (poppy) and chingrimach (Prawn). Bangals are bent on their shutki mach (dried fish) and Ilish Mach (Hilsa). There are many more differences with their culinary terms. Ghotis makes everything sweet whether it is a curry or any sweet dish, both are equally sweetened. Bangals on the other hand eat everything spicy.
  1. The language, Bangal dialect vs Ghoti dialect. Your dialect will have the impact of the place where you belong and stay. There is no need to fight over or mock. But still given a chance each group will not leave any opportunity to mock on their language. Though both are Bengali, but spoken in a different way…both are equally sweet!!
  1. North Kolkata vs South Kolkata. It is said that North Kolkata is the hub of all Ghotis, the native of Kolkata, West-bengal. They are the bonedi-families (Royal families) and are the babu of the society. Whereas South Kolkata is the hub of all Bangals – the inhabitants of Bangladesh. According to Ghotis’ Bangals do not posses any bonediana. They are uncultured and uncouth. Believe it or not it’s a never ending fight.
  1. Ghoti biye vs Bangal biye AKA Marriage. Lot of confusion with the style of marriage. Though it is the way of union of two souls. Still they fight over the rituals and ceremonies. A Ghoti marriage the bride should enter sasur-bari (in-laws home) before 12 noon. And in Bangal marriage the bride will enter only after dusk.
  1. Eating habits. Ghotis are more prone on eating televaja and muri (fried and puffed rice) where as Bangals likes to have something spicy and chatpata. North Kolkata is very famous for sweet shops namely, Dwarik, Vim nag, Putiram, Nakur etc. Here they take legions on this over Bangals.
  1. Roads of North Kolkata are something very interesting. Gullys are very famous, every traveller, photographer visits at least once in these gullys and old house. But South Kolkata is all about big roads, high-rises.
  1. The fashion sense. The fashion of North Kolkata and South Kolkata are very different. North Kolkata believes in more traditional attires whereas South Kolkatans are more westernized.

Now you see why shouldn’t there be a war, so many differences among Bengalis?? But still both of them stand as unity in every way, guess that’s’ why they are so perfectly bonded. Absolutely made for each other!!